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Ok.

 

Here it is 10pm and all I keep thinking is about how I hate my job these days. (If you ever see the movie Office Space you know what it's like now) As of late my company is down sizing. Many people loosing thier jobs. Allot of pressure has been put on my department. Basically what has happened is that my boss' boss volunteered our group to take the lion's share of the work. This is good because I still have a job. But on the down side everyone in my group is feeling the pressure. I am basically the only support staff to help out. I run tests, write reports, order equipment, get things fixed when needed....list goes on and on. Although I have one person signing my pay check I still have to follow orders from 3-5 people. Lately everyone wants to think that THEY have the top priority so they're job needs to be done first.

 

I have worked at this job for over 6 years now and I never have been this angry/fustrated as I have been this week. I have been yelled at in the middle of the office in front of other co-workers for something that was not my fault. And today I was told that my I should have done something that I was not part of my job. I was told that my work was "Sloppy" in front of a group of coworkers. Other same types of things have happened but too long to mention here. Now I can accept responsibility when it is my fault but things that I have not been told about or trained on I can't be resposible for....

 

A little over a month ago I got a glowing review. How I was a key person, I worked well alone/with others, projects were done well and on time...yadda yadda yadda. I never ever have been told that my work was less than satisfactory.

 

I don't know what do here. I like what I do. I like (for the most part) the people at my work. I even like the challenge of doing new things that are not in my job description. But this morning I was in the shower and found myself yelling aloud at one of my bosses. I am now loosing sleep because of this job. I can not speak to my check writer boss. She is so bogged down with work I barely can get time to meet with her to get my duties straight let alone talk to her about this. I also know this will fall on deaf ears because she is in the same boat as we all are.

 

I don't think that I could get the flexible start time I need anywhere else. (9:30)Money and benefits are good here. I have only been in this situation once in my life. I was single and living at home. I still stuck with it until it until it consumed my personal life. I told myself that I won't have this happen again. And now I have it happening again. But this time I can't just walk. I have responsablities to my family that can't be easily gotten somewhere else. I am totally totally stuck.

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I am so sorry to hear about this. The same sort of thing happened to my dad last year. He couldnt sleep and wasnt eating, which was making him loose a lot of weight. He actually was told to take 6 months off of work because of the depression it gave him, was put on meds, and had to see a shrink. It worked well for him, perhapse you should seek the same route. They also put him on another assignment...that might not happen in your case.

I send my best wishes to you, and I hope that you can remidy the situation. Hating your job that much isnt healthy for you.

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I've never been in this situation, so I can't relate directly. But my personal philosophy is that I will always sacrifice money for happiness. I know that's easier said than done when you have a family, but what quality of life do you have if you are working 10-12 hour shifts. If you are having a tough time, and you are unhappy, I'd figure out whether or not it is financially viable to make a career move.

 

But before making that sort of drastic decision, why not try talkig to your supervisor. I mean unless you are really worried about your job security or you have a very poor relationship with your employer you shouldn't be afraid to voice your concerns about getting run down, and not having any time for your family.

 

I dunno, it's a very crappy situation, I really hope things work out for you. This is what a pure-capitalist system is doing to households around the westerm world, and plain and simple it is wrong. I don't mind working hard for my employer, but I shouldn't have to sacrifice the most valuable things in my life to do so. Maybe I'm just too much of a socialist bleeding heart Liberal.

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Have to agree with Tommy - being dressed down in front of co-workes is unprofessional and not to be tolerated. My boss is a rather pushy individual, and got away with it with many individuals until he tried it with me and I barked back in front of everyone and informed him that if he had a problem with me I was more than willing to speak to him in private about it but if he continued to dress me down in front of co-workers I would be just as happy talking to his boss and human resources.

 

Funny, he hasn't done that to anyone since then. Try it, might work.

 

As for all that is going on, well, if you happen to have some time coming to you, perhaps take a long weekend or a week or more if you can, and take the family somewhere nice, clear the head, get rid of the bad vibes .. etc.

 

Best of luck to you - been there, didn't like it then either.

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when stressed out i find that some simple meditation will work wonders. when you get off work go home and take 5 min to yourself. sit in a dark room and burn some of your fav incense and just breath.. if you cant seem to get 5 min to yourself just do it in the bathroom. tell everyone if you have to that its #2 business!

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In my opinion and experience, replying in kind to a lack of tact is counter-productive. When they address you inappropriately, smile and use a calm voice and request to speak to them privately. If you must bark back, do so behind closed doors.

 

You can give away your professionalism, but nobody can take it from you.

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My Mother has some strangely similar things going on at work right now. They have been told by higher management that they can use all the vacation they have coming before they are all laid off in July. (The company got bought out.) The head of her department has decided that no one can take more than half of their vacation and she has actually harrassed my Mother for having to take off work back in November and December for my Grandmother's death and her surgery on her thyroid. This same manager harrassed another employee about the fact she was out so long on maternity leave. Mind you said manager is female and should understand what maternity leave really is about. Mom and her coworkers are all having problems with this woman and they are getting ready as a group to go speak with HR. I believe that speaking with HR might be your best bet. That's what HR is paid for, to help you out and settle issues like this.

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That being said, don't go over managments head unless you've honestly given a good try at talking to the problematic individual first. Doing so will foster more resentment with your manager (not to say you shouldn't do it, but it should be a last resort).

 

I've also got to disagree about going off on your boss. I don't put up with any crap from my employers, but getting into a pissing contest isn't a great idea in alot of circumstances. Better to resolve the situation behind closed doors if possible, let management save face (granted, it isn't always possible, and if it keeps happening you have to defend yourself and your position).

 

Like I said before, what a crappy situation to be in. I hope it works out for the best.

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I agree with spiritual_exorcist.

 

I had a boss do it to me not just in front of other employees, but customers as well, during the Christmas rush. The store was packed and I was the "exit greeter," just standing there doing nothing really. An elderly man who was walking with a cane came up to me and asked me about our preferred customer card (this was Computer City - a Tandy/Radio Shack company). The cashier had not offered one to him. My register was empty, the lines were 10+ people deep, and customer service was packed. I stepped to my register (maybe three steps from the door) and in a matter of less than one minute, had this gentleman his preferred card and was back at my post.

 

We just happened to have some corporates there that day, and they decided to leave at the time I had stepped aside to help this gentleman.

 

The store manager dressed me down in front of everyone. My reaction? I let him yell and make a complete fool of himself. It was everything I could do to keep from laughing at him. Later one of the other managers (the store manager was younger than me) informed him that what he had done was stupid and made him, and the store, look pretty bad and probably lost us some customers. Before I left that day, I had an apology and finally got to explain why I had stepped away from my post. When I pointed out to him that just that morning he had stressed the importance of customer service over everything else, that pretty well shut him up. This part of the conversation we had in private, though.

 

The basic moral is: Whoever dressed you down, made themselves to seem to be the fool, and your co-workers most likely know the score. While I know your supervisor is busy, they need to know what's going on with their employees. If need be, write it down and give it to them so they can peruse it when they can find the time, or email it. This way you have a written statement should a problem ever arise. If it happens again, go to your supervisor immediately and let them know, especially the part about the yelling in front of other employees.

 

Try not to let it invade your personal life. Writing it down will help get it out, especially if you give it to your supervisor. While nothing may be done, you tried, and if anything happens, you can fall back on it, go to HR (if you have one) and let them know.

 

Where I work now, if something like this happened, I'd be in the Union office right quick.

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If you are being downsized, chances are the managers that are coming down hard on you are feeling lots of pressure to keep their own jobs. I'd confront the managers in question and tell them your side. If they say anything else about it and act like you are just complaining, tell them you'll take it up with HR. As for the co-workers, chances are they thought the manager looked like a tool anyway.

 

As for the stress, leave work at work. Never bring it home. Days done, go hop in the car, crank up some tunes and head home.

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As an aside, I guess it really depends on where you work as well - or more to the point, the type of enviroment you work in.

 

As the others aid, 'barking back' might not be the smartest thing to do in front of a group in an office enviroment, close doors and if that isn't resolved, HR usually takes care of it.

 

In my instance, I'm a union worker as a defense contractor and we have .... some 'rough edged' individuals to say the least. Barking back is more or less the only way something can and will get solved in that enviroment. Gotta take the good with bad in those situations.

 

Anyhow, best of luck with this. Perhaps your best effort IS to go behind closed doors and sit down with your boss and inform him that just a month or two back you got glowing reviews and now that there is a bit of crunch and everyone seems to think you are their personal errand boy, things haven't gone as smooth and ya'll might want to make a 'chain of command' and go from there. If they are stressed, they may not be thinking about how they are treating others.

 

Try not to bring it home with you if you can.

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Thanks for the suggestion guys. I was going to try to talk to my meditate boss about my work issues today and I got this in my in box.

 

Hi Mike-

 

You have been doing AWESOME. You are the Proactive employee we need on :

 

<List of projects here>

 

This type of behavor will really be a big step in your career to get to this next Level of Unsolicited Proactive vs. Reactive Crises Message from <list current bosses here>

 

You can do it!

 

I felt like telling him to stick it.

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Thanks for the suggestion guys. I was going to try to talk to my meditate boss about my work issues today and I got this in my in box.

 

Hi Mike-

 

You have been doing AWESOME. You are the Proactive employee we need on :

 

<List of projects here>

 

This type of behavor will really be a big step in your career to get to this next Level of Unsolicited Proactive vs. Reactive Crises Message from <list current bosses here>

 

You can do it!

 

I felt like telling him to stick it.

Tough situation you're in! Sounds like your boss isn't sticking up for you, though. I'd still try and find some time to talk to him, even if you have to buy him lunch to do it!

 

I'd say "I appreciate the email encouragement."

"How about letting all the other people/managers know your assessment of my work abilities."

"How about letting the other people know that you are my boss, not them."

 

I'd try to say it more diplomatically, though! :ph34r:

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