vejlin Posted September 18, 2009 Share Posted September 18, 2009 I realize that I'm on the other side of the globe but: Honesty,loyalty, humor, kid tolerant (I have one) and either likes his life or is working to make it better. I just don't do well with a constant "Oh poor me" doesn't sound like it should be impossible to find. Where are you looking or said in a different way: Do you have any activities you do regularly that introduces you to new people without "finding a partner" being the primary objective of the activity? I ask because I've found that the best matches happen when you're relaxing and doing something you enjoy with likeminded people, without specifically looking for a partner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darius Glenwell Posted September 18, 2009 Share Posted September 18, 2009 Maltique. I PMed you. The website I gave has lots of pics! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fieldarchy Posted September 18, 2009 Share Posted September 18, 2009 I just start with the following as a guideline:Honesty,loyalty, humor, kid tolerant (I have one) and either likes his life or is working to make it better. I just don't do well with a constant "Oh poor me" plusses are being romantic and not being able to go by that one section in the grocery store without chanting "Spam, Spam Spam Spam" I am just looking for a good guy. Is that so hard? Evidentially. Yeah those are all good things! First and foremost is the honesty, loyalty, have to have a good sense of humor. I mean if you can't laugh at yourself you just won't have much fun in life! And yes no pity parties. I mean on occasion is understandable but not a constant state of Eyoreness. And I would say respect. Respect is something that is huge. Maltique, if I find the rock that the good guys are living under I'll send you the coords! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whizard Hlavaz Posted September 18, 2009 Share Posted September 18, 2009 I mean really it's the hat that sold me. That's one sexy hat in your picture. What woman could resist? Well, no surprise there. We whizards are known for our exeptional sense of style when it comes to headgear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fieldarchy Posted September 18, 2009 Share Posted September 18, 2009 It's true . . . it's the hat. Any man who can pull of wearing that hat . . . sexy! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deguello Posted September 18, 2009 Share Posted September 18, 2009 Hi Meg, I am a little outside your age range...and recently divorced. LOL but why do you need a website? I have met you.. You have looks, talent, and charm.. a triple threat. why try to force it? My experience is when you are least looking for love.. um Wham!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fieldarchy Posted September 18, 2009 Share Posted September 18, 2009 Hey Dequello, The thing is that if I don't make an effort to meet someone when am I going to meet someone? I work for myself out of my home and most of my friends are in committed relationships or married. So leaves my pool a bit small. I've been waiting and not going out of my way for some time now and nothing is happening. I'm tired of waiting. I need to meet new people and get some new networks going. Trust me I wish it were as simple as sitting at home painting or doing homework and then have a man ring the doorbell with flowers and a ring in hand and know he's the perfect man! I've met a lot of great guys but they aren't ready for anything committed or serious right now. I am. And I don't want to wait around hoping something will happen. Life can be somewhat serendipitous but sometimes you have to help it along. I am currently on yahoo personals, I'm giving gk2gk a try but thus far I'm not impressed with my results. Yahoo has provided much better results. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackthorne Posted November 22, 2009 Share Posted November 22, 2009 Found another possible dating site whilst reading my daily dose of webcomics (what does it say when most webcomics have ads for dating services on them?).Geek-to-Geek The ad specifically mentions "fans of Comic-Con dating" but there should be some overlap. Geek to Geek is good. But the computer doesn't do "matches" well, it just tells you who's in your area. It asked what 3 criteria were most important to me, and I said religion, non-smoker, common interests. It kept suggesting athiest smokers as possible "matches". Thanks, computer. But there's some decent people on there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shakandara Posted November 22, 2009 Share Posted November 22, 2009 (edited) My experience is when you are least looking for love.. um Wham!!! Amen. And this doesn't mean sit at home waiting for Mr./Ms. Right to come knocking; enjoy your life, and surprising things will come your way. Take it for what it is worth. ~v Edited November 22, 2009 by Shakandara Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bel_Amore Posted November 22, 2009 Share Posted November 22, 2009 My experience is when you are least looking for love.. um Wham!!! Amen. And this doesn't mean sit at home waiting for Mr./Ms. Right to come knocking; enjoy your life, and surprising things will come your way. Take it for what it is worth. ~v I'll third that! Although technically I found mine by not searching and just being myself 100% and ended up stealing my BFF's guy...oops! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kristof65 Posted November 23, 2009 Share Posted November 23, 2009 I'll fourth (?) it. Even though I was using dating sites, I found mine only after I had given up on using the sites as a means of finding a potential partner or mate, but instead as a tool to meet new people whom with I might enjoy spending an afternoon or evening with. In other words, I got less picky about the ladies I contacted, "judging" them only on whether or not they'd be someone who'd be interesting to meet and have afternoon coffee with (my preferred first "date" - very little pressure for either party). I met several nice ladies who definitely weren't the one, but who were fun to go hiking with, meet for coffee, etc - I even attended an office christmas party with one girl when her date backed out at nearly the last moment. Most of them I saw 4-5 times each as friends. When I met my wife, it was with the same intentions, though on our first meeting there was definitely some chemistry I didn't expect, and afternoon coffee turned into a real date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kataclysm Posted November 24, 2009 Share Posted November 24, 2009 Just an observation here. I feel that the reason so many of us are having a seemingly difficult time finding anyone is our lack or personal interaction. We spend so much time doing the things that cut us off from each other sometimes that it is hard to push yourself out to find people. Me, personally, I hate clubs and the party scene. Did plenty of that in college and just no thanks really. Too many people trying to be something they aren't or 30-40 year olds that either never grew up or are trying to act 20 again. I don't want to be 20, i want to be me and find someone that can be them. I agree with you guys. Honesty, integrity, intelligence (or access to a good spell checker), a good sense of humor. Those things go a long way to building a good relationship. It's frustrating to no end. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wyrmgear Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 Hey! I think some of us good guys are still out there! :) But, it depends on your definition of a good guy. I would like to find a good woman, but does my ideal fit the next guys? I think if you ask any person on the planet they will tell you they are a good catch, and I'm sure they are for someone- just finding that someone can be tough. FA, I sympathize with your getting out to network- I live in a military town with, not one, but three military bases (Ft. Carson, Perterson AFB, Air Force Academy), four if you count Shriever (SP?). The man to woman ration here is something ridiculous, like 20:1 or some such. Topped off with working 50 to 60 hours a week, painting, hitting the gym 4 days a week... I see more walls than trees, so to speak. At any rate, I certainly wish you luck! I'm sure you'll find that lucky guy before too long. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rukki Odds Posted November 26, 2009 Share Posted November 26, 2009 For me the ratio of men to women 20:1 is absolutely normal. While I was on my studies there were 3 girls and 120 boys on my semester (Warsaw University Of Technology) :P Now nothing can scare me ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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