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Ok, so I signed up for this page years ago. After a brutal breakup and following healing, I am ready to get back out there again. I updated my page a couple weeks ago. Its more for company than anything. I don't have a lot of friends in town anymore.

 

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really? NOTHING??

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Some people have had success with online dating. I'd suggest checking in on occasion if you're a member of a site, but go out more. I find it's easier to meet people on the street, in an art gallery, at a show, a bar, a nightclub, or anywhere outside.

 

Hang in there.

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I have a friend who uses Plenty Of Fish...and is chronically single. He occasionally meets one of the contacts they've suggested, but it NEVER works out for whatever reason.

 

I keep telling him he just needs to find a place where like-minded people gather. In his case it would either be a church or library.

 

While these online matching services cut to the chase regarding certain aspects such as interests and what I call "deal breakers" (whether he can live with a smoker/drinker/children), they tend to not catch what I call "the creep factor".

 

If you've ever tried meeting guys at the game store, you know of which creep factor I speak. LOL

 

Good luck with the hunt. Sometimes what you're looking for turns up in the most unlikely place.

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Your location may be hindering you in the online world. I ran into something similar in the San Francisco Bay area years back when I tried online dating there. Turns out that the number of available men in that area and online was nearly double that of women - so women could be very picky about things that really shouldn't matter, like hair color and income. I was planning on moving back to my hometown in Colorado anyway, so after I found that interesting little statistic, I started trying looking around Denver, where the statistics showed more single women versus men. And that's how I eventually met my wife.

 

Moving to a different region to meet someone isn't necessarily an answer for everyone - but if you're aware of the approx ratios of available men/women in your area, you can take steps to "expand" your search. I'd suggest getting involved in some additional social activities that interest you - if you like hiking, join a hiking club; if you like model trains, join a train club; etc. But join for the activity, not just to meet someone.

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Best advice is don't seek it out. Just do what you do and you'll meet someone. I had known Mich through CMoN for a few years. It wasn't until he looked me up on Facebook and we started talking more personally that we fell in love. I didn't do anything out of my norm and once I stopped looking I found the man for me.

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One of my game group pointed this site out to me a couple years back, and it just dawned on me it's probably just as effective as a dating site in terms of meeting people:

 

http://www.meetup.com

 

It's designed for people of similar interests in local areas to get together and share their interests. Around the Denver area, it's used a lot by board gamers to get together and meet up for the purpose of playing games. I wouldn't use it specifically for finding someone, but it looks like a great way to meet people of similar interests in your area and expand your circle of friends and acquaintances.

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Speaking for myself, eHarmony did work for me. It took me 11 months to find that someone special, but Tammi and I have been together for nearly 3 years now. Funny thing is, she had only been on eHarmony for a month before we found each other. I believe the terms "actual results may vary" and "your mileage may vary" are appropriate for eHarmony.

 

You've got to have patience with it, but I'm living proof it can work.

 

I've been on Match before. I might as well have signed up with Online Booty Call dot com.

 

Just my $0.02.

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