Sirithiliel Posted January 18, 2018 Author Share Posted January 18, 2018 step dad continues to go downhill. He's forgetting things now, and has been having trouble with his vision. Mother says the hospice is thinking the cancer has begun spreading to his brain. He keeps asking her when we're all coming home for christmas and why her christmas decorations are not out yet. When told my sister was bringing her baby over, he asked 'what baby' 16 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jokemeister Posted January 18, 2018 Share Posted January 18, 2018 So sorry to hear that Siri. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terminalmancer Posted January 18, 2018 Share Posted January 18, 2018 Oh no. I'm very sorry. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kangaroorex Posted January 18, 2018 Share Posted January 18, 2018 There is no easy way through, but it sounds like your family is there and comforting to the end. In the end there are still the memories that keep them with us even after they pass away. It is good to have no anger or regrets. Sometimes I think it is a blessing that they slip into their favorite parts or their life before the end, it eases the fear of the unknown. take the time that's left and, if necessary, enjoy his company where he thinks he is. my thoughts and prayers go with you. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 18, 2018 Share Posted January 18, 2018 *all the hugs* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pcktlnt Posted January 18, 2018 Share Posted January 18, 2018 I'm sorry Siri. *hugs to you and yours* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glitterwolf Posted January 18, 2018 Share Posted January 18, 2018 ***Hugs*** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pezler the Polychromatic Posted January 18, 2018 Share Posted January 18, 2018 *hugs* Drop me a line if you need to talk. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sirithiliel Posted January 18, 2018 Author Share Posted January 18, 2018 i don't even know what to say or what i'd talk about, if i'm being honest. I almost wish he'd just pass peacefuly so he'd stop suffering, but then i feel terrible for even thinking about it 3 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyradis Posted January 18, 2018 Share Posted January 18, 2018 *sends hugs to Siri* You aren't terrible. The feeling doesn't sit well, but in no way makes you awful. Wishing someone peace is okay. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleBluberry Posted January 18, 2018 Share Posted January 18, 2018 1 hour ago, Sirithiliel said: i don't even know what to say or what i'd talk about, if i'm being honest. I almost wish he'd just pass peacefuly so he'd stop suffering, but then i feel terrible for even thinking about it I think this is pretty normal. Watching someone suffer is hard, and your family has had to do it for a long time. Seeing the onset of dementia is that much harder. Be kind to yourself. <hugs> 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderator Froggy the Great Posted January 18, 2018 Moderator Share Posted January 18, 2018 1 hour ago, Sirithiliel said: i don't even know what to say or what i'd talk about, if i'm being honest. I almost wish he'd just pass peacefuly so he'd stop suffering, but then i feel terrible for even thinking about it This is normal and ok. We just went through this with my wife's grandmother (age 96, passed this weekend) and are going through it with her husband of 70+ years (99 and strong, but mentally gone.) 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jasonator Posted January 18, 2018 Share Posted January 18, 2018 Siri; Switch your point of view. It is NOT a case of You looking at your Dad, and feeling bad for him. Think of what he would say if he could see the condition of things. The last thing he wants to see is any of you in pain. Be grateful that he leaves surrounded by family that truly do love him. Doesn't get much better than that. Love him to the end, and you will know true peace. I keep you and your family in my prayers. Jay 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sirithiliel Posted January 19, 2018 Author Share Posted January 19, 2018 i know, i know i shouldn't feel bad about it. Still do though we're looking into a plane ticket for me towards end of january/beginnnig of february. My mom wants me to come visit, she doesn't think he has long and he keeps asking when i'm coming home for christmas 3 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terminalmancer Posted January 19, 2018 Share Posted January 19, 2018 He's got two possible options right now and neither one of them are good. It's a terrible situation to be in. I hope you get to see him. It sounds like he would really appreciate it. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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