Jokemeister Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 In times like this, just knowing you are there is a massive help to your family. Sometimes, it's not about what you can do but knowing you are near. Having that extra person you care about near you to help share your grief is a help in itself. And knowing that, while they may not specifically need you for anything, you are there and able to help should they need it. <HUGS> 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pezler the Polychromatic Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 5 hours ago, Sirithiliel said: They are managing. I admit I am very little help. His sisters are a big help to Mom, helping clean the stoma, help give him meds or food. It takes three people to move him from his bed to his recliner and they have been a big help on thay too and I think t helps my mom just having them there to talk to and socialize with. His parents have been going grocery shopping and making meals We all do our own part, and what you're doing is just as important as anything else. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DocPiske Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 Our pain at loss is in direct proportion to the joy brought to us by what we lost. Endure the pain and then let it go. Remember the joy. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sirithiliel Posted January 25, 2018 Author Share Posted January 25, 2018 Little update of him. He’s been really weak, takes three people to help him move. He gets medicine every hour so my aunts and Mom have been taking turns waking up over night for the past week and yet somehow in between checks he got up on his own, waked all the way across the house to the master bath to try and use the bathroom, and ended up slipping. He was found not long after due to the noise of his fall, hospice is coming over to check on him. He hit his shoulder and head. They managed to get him cleaned up and back to bed (cleaned up because he didn’t make it to the toilet) 13 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ludo Posted January 25, 2018 Share Posted January 25, 2018 All of the hugs. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sirithiliel Posted January 25, 2018 Author Share Posted January 25, 2018 Nothing was broken, just bruised. He is running a 100.6 fever and his thumbnails are turning blue 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thes Hunter Posted January 26, 2018 Share Posted January 26, 2018 I don't know what to say. I may be one of the few here who has had the most experience with these sorts of situations. I can say, everything you report is routine, even though none of it may seem that way to you. That I am glad he is there surrounded by so many family members. I can tell this does bring him great comfort. That though the moments may feel long now, sometime later, this will feel as if it 'flew' by. And that you will cherish these moments, even the smelly ones. No one can say how much time he has left, only God knows. But I am glad you are able to spend it there with him and your family. I hope being able to post here about it brings you some comfort. Please let us know if there is anything else we can do to help. 6 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kangaroorex Posted January 26, 2018 Share Posted January 26, 2018 zen hugs and caring thoughts to you Siri. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 27, 2018 Share Posted January 27, 2018 I think this is the hardest part. Knowing there isn't much time left, seeing the rapid deterioration, and can't do anything but wait. *hugs a bunch* If you need anything, we're here. So sorry your family is going through this. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sirithiliel Posted January 28, 2018 Author Share Posted January 28, 2018 Thanks everyone, it really does help and is appreciated i am going home tomorrow. Husband bought me a plane ticket. I have been here a week now and I need to go home. I have said what I needed too and my mom has lots of support in my aunts and grandparents. I haven’t been feeling well for the past few days and I think I just need to be home 15 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thes Hunter Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 I hope you had a safe trip home. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sirithiliel Posted January 30, 2018 Author Share Posted January 30, 2018 yes i got home okay. been trying to get back into normal routine. I feel better being away, as selfish as that sounds 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thes Hunter Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 No. Not selfish at all. There was a Thai saying I once heard, that went something like: A man who can not swim, can not save a drowning man. He should not try, because he will only drown himself. I always remind the family members that they HAVE to take care of themselves as well. It does no one any good injuring your own health. It was good you were able to get there, and say what needed to be said, and spend time with your family. But you also need to do what you need to do for yourself, and your husband. 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glitterwolf Posted February 2, 2018 Share Posted February 2, 2018 I completely agree with the Leprechaun @Thes Hunter 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sirithiliel Posted February 2, 2018 Author Share Posted February 2, 2018 Thanks. I know, though I still feel bad about not staying. haven’t heard much from home beyond things are still holding stable 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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