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28 minutes ago, Sirithiliel said:

well, still been a rough few months. One of my sisters announced she was pregnant about a month ago, but she miscarried last week. My other sister's baby is almost a year old, but had a seizure today with a fever of 108 and is in the ER now

 

I hope the little kid will be ok!

I will keep my fingers crossed!

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1 hour ago, Sirithiliel said:

well, still been a rough few months. One of my sisters announced she was pregnant about a month ago, but she miscarried last week. My other sister's baby is almost a year old, but had a seizure today with a fever of 108 and is in the ER now

That's rough.  I do hope life gets quieter for you soon.  much care and kindness

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4 hours ago, Sirithiliel said:

well, still been a rough few months. One of my sisters announced she was pregnant about a month ago, but she miscarried last week. My other sister's baby is almost a year old, but had a seizure today with a fever of 108 and is in the ER now

 

I'm so sorry, miscarriages are a hard burden to bear.  Especially when everyone is hoping for more good news.

 

Febrile seizures are very scary but not rare in infants.  I hope they have her feeling better soon and that the cause of the fever is not serious.  

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Not really sure waht to think right now. My mom called me today and told me she's got a guy friend she's 'building a friendship' with. Wanted to make sure I was okay with it, so sounds like it's more than a friendship.

SHe's an adult, it's her life, and if she found someone that makes her happy after the two or three years of being unhappy dealing with my ill father, then who am i to tell her 'no! it's too early! you aren't t allowed to be happy yet'. But i s still feel like it's too early for this, he passed away in February, it's not like it's been that long

 

i'm not going to tell her any of that, it's her life and her happiness and i don't want to tell her she's not allowed to move on and be happy yet, but i still don't really know what to think

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My wife went through that last year, just over a year after her father passed away.  She was happy mom was moving on but at the same time was hurt and upset.  The "new friend" didn't last long at all as her mom decided she wasn't quite there yet, but the change in my mother-in-law was clear after the experience, and for the better.  Maybe that's what yours needs, is time to feel like a person instead of a full-time caregiver for a little while.  

 

Best of luck coming to terms with this new phase.  Hope it all goes well.  

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Things are still pretty meh. The relationship my mother was having ended, it turned out it wasn't her friend from school but some scammer that stole his account so she's changed her number and moved on. However seh had quit her teaching job when she thought she was going to have 2 grandbabies to take care of, but they've now terminated her contract due to budget cuts and she was the newest / highest paid teacher on the roster, so now she has no source of income beyond the monthly checks from my step father's retirement, which isn't enough to cover car payments and house payments. So i've loaned her some money for now, while she looks into filling out retirement papers

 

but i still can't help but think she is very irresponsible, because i still see her doing things like going out to eat with my sisters or going to target with them and buying things for the grandbaby. And she doesn't even know if she WILL get retirement, so she should be looking at back up scenarios where she has to apply for another teaching job

 

bleh

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Still don’t really know what to do. Spending thanksgiving with my mom and sister at my family in El Paso, but seeing how much my mom is drinking worries me

 

I am worried the money I loaned her to help her pay for the house and car until she either gets her early retirement or the settlement from her lawsuit isn’t being spent responsibly, when I see everything she is buying and doing. I may have exacerbated a problem instead of helped her out and I am just so disheartened about it 

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8 hours ago, Sirithiliel said:

Still don’t really know what to do. Spending thanksgiving with my mom and sister at my family in El Paso, but seeing how much my mom is drinking worries me

 

I am worried the money I loaned her to help her pay for the house and car until she either gets her early retirement or the settlement from her lawsuit isn’t being spent responsibly, when I see everything she is buying and doing. I may have exacerbated a problem instead of helped her out and I am just so disheartened about it 

 

Not exactly the same, but my biological daughter has been in trouble a few times.

I helped her out with money, but soon I realized she would spend that on a new tattoo or smokes rather than adress her real problems.

So I whenever I do help her now, I send goods or vouchers that can't be exchanged for cash.

 

You have done what you thought best out of a good heart!

If she is not responsible with that, don't blame yourself!

Just keep that in mind for the next time and take action according to your experiences now.

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