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On 7/19/2022 at 8:07 PM, haldir said:

 

 I don't care if your gay, lesbian, trans, Martian or aberration. If you can roll dice, & want to have a fun time, your in!

 

 Aberration? I'm sorry, but if an aboleth shows up at your table, I'm going to have to bow out of that game...

 

 

 

 

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Some people get really hung up on "realism" in D&D, but weirdly just as it relates to women and minority groups. 

Typical examples include: forcing female characters to have lower strength/be in a more traditional female role or persecuting characters for non-hetero relationships. 

 

Ofc, one can play a more realistic medieval game and hit those more mature themes. But such a game requires a lot of thought and discussion beforehand, "realism" shouldn't just be a thinly veiled excuse to live out your misogynistic tendencies. And for some people it might just be really unfun to play a female or LGBTQ+ character in a world in which you get constantly medievally opressed.

 

Not all gamers are like that, most I've met were an awesome and inclusive bunch, but there are enough weird ones for all those RPG horror stories. When I listed my group as searching for additional players, I got a lot of requests particullarly from female players who either made bad experiences or had heard of enough horror stories to be vary. 

 

Official D&D books these days are quite good at representing a wide variety of skin tones and gender in their art. It's nice to see well-armored female knights or darker skinned charactes in the official art. There are also some LGBTQ+ characters in the background, like two men running a farm together and being clearly married. Women characters also come in all societal positions and not just "maiden in distress" or "wife of".

I think stuff like this goes a long way in making players feel welcome. It's not about roleplaying graphic content, it's about having a normalized presence in your fantasy world and not having to feel like "freaks" or "outsiders" or constantly being reminded that "you're quite strong/clever/good at magic FOR A WOMAN". 

 

 

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Could also be that they don't want to play with people who are casually or otherwise insensitive to minorities, rather than wanting you to include anything directly pertaining to other lifestyles. 

 

Sorta like how a parent will ask if a rpg session is kid-friendly. They don't want to expose their kid to adult behavior, but they're not saying they expect you to have children PC's or multicolored talking horses (although there is an RPG where you totally can. 😄

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As an LGBT+ person, that label just means that it's a safe and welcoming place for members of that community. It has nothing to do with sex, romance, or anything like that. Non-LGBT people often play TTRPGs for escapism, we often play them to work through trauma with a supportive group of peers and find catharsis. Like group therapy, but cheaper and much more entertaining. 

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